the things i’ve been called as an introvert

How many times in my life have I apologized for being these things? Countless. And how many times have I had someone else apologize on my behalf for being them? Countless more.

I still feel a twinge of shame when I read these words, a desire to push them away. In our culture of personality, something I’m learning about in Susan Cain’s book, “Quiet”, extroverts often shape our world views – from our schools and offices to the character traits we value. So, it’s easy to understand why I have tried to bury my introversion deep within me. I thought this part of myself was inadequate.

I’ve spent my life trying to hide from these descriptions of myself. I often try to be something I’m not, like many introverts, by copying extroverts and “faking it ‘til I make it”. I practice being outgoing. I exhaust myself in social situations.

And while there is a time and a place for stretching myself – there’s also a real power in accepting my introversion and finding the power in it (or so I’m discovering with a little help from my therapist and authors like Susan Cain)

Hi, I’m @ThatQuietMom and yes, I’m all of the words above, at least to some degree.

But more importantly, I form deep and lasting relationships. I listen more than I talk. I am interested in and curious about the world around me. I am empathetic and kind. And while the thought of putting my face on social media makes me want to puke… I genuinely want to know more about who you are and what’s brought you here.

So leave a comment below, I read every single one.

And if you’re curious about the power of introverts, I leave you with Susan Cain: